As a psychologist, I’ve had the privilege of working with many individuals who have been touched by suicide, either through personal attempts or through the loss of someone they love. The term “suicide survivor” carries immense emotional weight, and it’s important to recognize the unique challenges that both groups face. Whether someone has survived an attempt on their own life or is grieving the loss of a loved one to suicide, the road to healing is long, complex, and often deeply personal.

My goal as a mental health professional is to shed light on this journey, offer compassionate support, and share valuable resources that can assist in the healing process. In understanding what it means to be a suicide survivor, we create the opportunity to offer the right kind of help—because no one should face this journey alone.

Who is a Suicide Survivor?

1. Survivors of Suicide Loss
A survivor of suicide loss is someone who has experienced the heart-wrenching loss of a loved one—whether a family member, friend, or partner—to suicide. This type of grief is particularly difficult because it leaves many unresolved questions and often brings intense feelings of guilt, confusion, and even anger.

In my practice, I frequently hear clients question themselves: “Could I have done something differently? Were there signs I missed?” This self-reflection is normal, but it can also become a barrier to healing. It’s important to understand that, as survivors, we are not responsible for the choices others make. Still, these feelings are valid and must be addressed through compassionate support and counseling.

Common emotions experienced by suicide loss survivors include:

• Guilt: Feeling responsible, thinking you could have prevented the tragedy or missed key signs.
• Stigma: Suicide is often shrouded in stigma, which can make it difficult for survivors to reach out for support or discuss their feelings openly.
• Unanswered Questions: “Why did this happen?” is a recurring question, but closure can be elusive when so much remains unknown.
• Anger and Confusion: It’s natural to feel anger—both towards the deceased for their decision and towards oneself or others for not preventing it.

Healing from a loss like this doesn’t mean the pain completely disappears, but it is possible to find peace and closure. Therapy, peer support groups, and leaning on understanding loved ones are key elements in the healing process. As a psychologist, I encourage survivors to reach out early and often for help—no one should navigate this grief alone.

2. Survivors of Suicide Attempts
On the other side of this spectrum are individuals who have survived a suicide attempt. These clients often carry their own set of emotional burdens—feelings of shame, confusion, and ongoing psychological pain are common themes in my work with them.

Survivors of suicide attempts face many internal and external pressures, and they often fear judgment from others. A large part of my work with attempt survivors involves addressing the shame and stigma that still surrounds mental health and suicide. It’s crucial to break down these barriers so they can seek the help they need.

Challenges faced by suicide attempt survivors:

• Shame and Stigma: Many feel ashamed of their attempt, particularly in a society that often fails to discuss mental health issues openly.
• Physical and Emotional Recovery: Depending on the attempt, survivors may need time to heal both physically and emotionally.
• Fear of Judgment: Survivors often worry about how others will perceive them, which can lead to isolation and reluctance to seek support.
• Rediscovering Hope: Finding hope and purpose again is central to recovery. This process typically requires professional support, therapy, and sometimes medication to address underlying mental health conditions.

As with those who have lost someone, survivors of attempts need a strong, nonjudgmental support system to recover and move forward. My role is to offer a safe, understanding space where they can explore their emotions, find hope, and begin the path to healing.

The Unique Challenges of Suicide Survivors

1. Stigma and Silence
In my practice, I’ve found that the stigma surrounding suicide often leads to silence. Survivors—whether of a loss or an attempt—may feel hesitant to speak openly about their experience for fear of judgment. This can prolong the healing process and make grief or recovery feel even more isolating. It’s important to create environments where these conversations can happen openly and without fear.

2. Complicated Grief
The grief associated with suicide is often more complex than other forms of loss. Survivors may struggle with feelings of guilt, anger, and confusion, which can prevent them from finding closure. Addressing these emotions in therapy is key to helping survivors work through their grief.

3. Post-Traumatic Stress
For both groups of survivors, the trauma of suicide can have long-lasting effects. Those left behind after a suicide may experience symptoms of post-traumatic stress, while attempt survivors may feel haunted by the memory of their experience. Therapy is an essential tool in helping individuals process and heal from this trauma.

Offering Hope and Healing

As a psychologist, I believe in the power of hope, even in the darkest of times. The journey of a suicide survivor—whether someone who has survived a personal attempt or someone mourning the loss of a loved one—requires time, understanding, and the right support. It’s not a journey anyone should walk alone, and there is always hope for healing.

If you or someone you know is a suicide survivor, don’t hesitate to seek help. Healing is possible, and there are resources available to guide you on your journey. Together, we can overcome the pain and find the hope that lies ahead.